9 Post-Baby Pitfalls and What You Can Do About Them
Connecting with your partner after baby arrives can be a real challenge. Here's how to avoid some of the most common post-baby sex pitfalls
Problem: You’re So in Love With the Baby That You Feel Disconnected From Your Partner
Solution: Let your mate get in on the cuddles
It’s no wonder you’re smitten; the wee new man in your life smells good, laughs at all of your jokes and can’t seem to get enough of you.
“When you’re with the baby, breastfeeding and cuddling, you’re releasing the love hormone oxytocin and feeling super-bonded and connected,” says sexologist Trina Read. But when you’re giving all of your affection to your baby, you may—even unknowingly—turn away from your partner.
“When women are giving their love and affection to their baby, their partners may begin to feel neglected and excluded,” says couples’ and sex therapist Dr. David McKenzie. “Just be aware that you need to cuddle and tell your partner you love him too.”
If you ignore your relationship now, in a year it may be harder to reconnect. Hire a sitter and set aside special time as a couple.
“If you’re breastfeeding, pump milk and refrigerate or freeze it so you have the freedom to be unattached for a few hours,” says gynecologist Dr. Nancy Durand.
“Time together alone is a very good thing for your relationship.”