By Avery McGee
Snagging that preschool spot for your darling tot, convincing the boss-slash-dragon-lady to let you job-share, persuading that top contractor to renovate your bathroom ASAP…impossible, right? Wrong. Do you want to get your way, right now? Here’s how: Stop thinking you won’t. Summon your hidden, likely beaten-down-since-your-teen-years optimist. You are Pollyanna. In other words, be utterly convinced you will get your way — neuroses and self-doubt be damned — and you will.
Is it? Is it crazy to believe you’ll get your way, or is it crazier to assume that people — friends, family, bosses who don’t want to lose good employees, preschools that need full classrooms, contractors who stand to make money — want to say no? They don’t.
See, you’re already in the wrong frame of mind. Yes, it does work. Here’s an example. My sister-in-law — let’s call her Polly — is of the relentlessly sunny optimist variety. A mature student, she recently finished a PhD (“Why would that be difficult to obtain?” she said, honestly puzzled). More recently, she uprooted to California. Sans work permit. Sans job. Sans home. (“Oh, we’ll find jobs,” she said when we fretted about her strategy — or lack thereof). She never doubted that they would be Mickey-Mouse-eared regulars at nearby Disneyland and enjoy their sun-drenched expat lives. And of course, she got her way.