Imagine this scene: you’re hosting a birthday party for your child. You take a few snaps of the birthday boy blowing out the candles on his cake, surrounded by friends. You post the photo to Facebook for friends and family to see. Cuteness abounds.

But wait—did you ask the parents of the other kids in the photo if they were cool with you posting the pic to Facebook? It may not be something that immediately crosses your mind—it’s just your average birthday party, after all—but it’s something that we’ll be giving more thought to after reading Peggy Orenstein’s piece on the topic over on The New York Times‘ parenting blog, Motherlode.

For some parents, posting photos of their kids on the web—whether it’s on Facebook or on their personal website—is something that they simply do not do. For others, it’s not such a big deal—they post photos and stories about their kids every day. But when it comes to posting photos of someone else’s kids, well, things get a little more complicated.

Do you ask permission before posting photos that include other people’s kids on Facebook or elsewhere on the web? Would you want other parents to ask permission before posting photos of your kids?