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Kids’ Food Allergies Aren’t Nuts

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Despite recent coverage that says otherwise, it’s essential to be vigilant about food allergies in schools. In a don’t-do-what-I-did narrative featured in the April 2010 issue—available on newsstands March 15th—CF’s editor-in-chief Jen Reynolds tells the story of how she discovered her son has a life-threatening allergy to peanuts:

I was sitting in the hairdresser’s chair when I first read the story. I was getting a full head of high and lowlights done, so I brought copies of the December 2009 issue of Chatelaine and a new issue of The New Yorker, and set a challenge for myself to see if I could get through every word before I was blonde again. It was halfway through when my face turned beet red and the colourist stopped quickly, wondering if I was having some kind of allergic reaction to the hair dye. It turned out I was having a reaction to Chatelaine’s story about food allergies, specifically peanut allergies—a subject very close to my heart.

For anyone who hasn’t read the piece, its author, Patricia Pearson, accuses parents of overestimating and overreacting to the threat that food allergies pose to children. She questions the prevalence of peanut allergies, the accuracy of allergy tests and the decision to make schools peanut-free. Basically, in a whiny I’m-hard-done-by-because-my-son-who-is-a-picky-eater-can’t-bring-a-PB&J-sandwich-to-school tone, she manages to offend everyone with a life-threatening food allergy—and those who care about people with that condition.

Not surprisingly, the magazine’s website has 629 comments responding to the article, most of them condemning the piece from parents of anaphylactic kids. (According to Statistics Canada, close to 90,000 kids are allergic to peanuts.) On cbc.ca, a well-crafted, fact-filled response from Allergic Living magazine’s editor Gwen Smith solicited another 263 comments echoing a similar disdain for the Chatelaine article. Pearson’s account, says Smith, “skewers the hard-won accommodations in schools to protect food-allergic children, confuses facts and statistics, and never pauses to speak to a principal or a parent of a child who has experienced anaphylaxis, the most serious form of allergic reaction.”

As a mom of a school-age son with an anaphylactic peanut allergy, I agree with Smith and find Pearson’s comments disheartening, irresponsible and dangerous.

To read how Jen discovered her son’s allergy, the mistakes she and her husband made when treating it and what she’s learned as a result, click here.

This article and other hot button topics including infidelity, teaching morality in schools, sex, lying to your kids and how TV and video games are actually good for your kids are all in the April 2010 issue on newsstands March 15th.

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Time for March Break!

In some parts of the country, March Break has already begun. In others, it’s coming up fast.

Not sure what you’ll be doing? Check out our Best March Break Ideas Ever.

Host a sleepover, plan a last-minute trip or spend the days crafting and reading: whatever you choose, we have tons ideas and tips. We’ve also gathered up the best family events happening all over the country.

Whatever your plans, let us know! Have a great event to share that we haven’t included? Have a fun craft idea for a cloudy afternoon? The perfect play-date recipe? Let us know in the comments!

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New Favourite: Organic Kamut Puffs Cereal

My son is a big boy now. Did I tell you that we walk down the street together now? I’m still disappointed that the crowds don’t part in waves of applause. First walking, then an umbrella stroller (okay, we’ve only rolled in it twice: who can stand the heartbreak of forward-facing out?) and now cereal.

We’re getting ready for our transition to toddler room, and that means breakfast will no longer be held for his arrival. I want something so that he can fit in with his peers, a snack that won’t ferment in my purse and one that I can finally fill his Snack-Trap-y thing with. Since he exhibits no cereal preference, we try a new one every few weeks. (At least until I can distract him from the toddler-height merchandised box with the bright, smiley koala).

Keeping it together thanks to Kamut

Everything from Barbara’s Bakery has been a winner, including the Cheerios alternative superstar,  Organic Breakfast Oh’s (low-sodium whole grains, lightly sweetened with fruit juice). But, frankly they’re too small for my slow fingers to snatch up before they become a fine, stamped-upon dust. Enter Nature’s Path Organic Kamut Puffs. These babies are delicious: a tiny bit naturally sweet and nutty, no added ingredients, crunchy and a fun oversize grain.

What’s Kamut? It’s related to durum wheat, so it still contains gluten, but is much less refined and with more protein. It includes the bran, germ and endosperm of the entire grain, preserving vitamins, minerals, fibre and photochemicals. And it’s missing all of the usual cereal junk: sodium, sugar, over 50 calories, etc.

Definitely not nutritious enough as a meal substitute, but perfect as a not-too-filling tide-over until I can feed him something proper. Maybe.

The bad news: there’s no koala on the front, so this may be a time-sensitive, limited appeal sort of cereal. But it does only cost $2.69 at my grocery. And it’s from a Canadian mom-and-pop brand. Brilliant!

—Melissa, CF’s lifestyle editor

PS: There’s a great round-up with nutritional analysis of organic kids cereals in our next issue. And if you have any tips for toddlers who won’t drink milk, please let me know!

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21 Ways to De-Clutter Your Home

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Photo by Michael Graydon

Still slogging away at that New Year’s resolution to be more organized? Never fear, help is here!

We’ve gathered 21 easy ideas to help you set your home on its path to being clutter-free. Okay, perhaps it won’t ever be completely clutter-free, but these ideas will help minimize the clutter, at the very least.

Have some more clutter-clearing ideas? Please share them! We need all the help we can get.

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Review: The Very Best Stay-Up Mittens

One little mummy lost her mittens, and she began to cry…

Sometimes it’s the little things. Like realizing just after you’ve hopped onto the streetcar, babe in arms, that one lonely mitten was left lying on the street. The good news, my friends: my daycare pick up is now 25 percent easier, and there are approximately 75 percent fewer women bad-momming my son’s cold, naked hands.

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I’ve finally found the perfect mitten! There’s an exclamation mark here because I’ve got a commitment problem. I need to know every product out there at every price point and read every review, before I can even start considering a purchase. And while my inability to make a quick decision left us bootless in December, the good news is that all the adorable colours and embroidery of Mimitens are still available. (And far fewer lost singles are hanging off tree branches across the city.)

Mimitens are Thinsulate-lined and water-repellent, and, most amazingly, never come off, whether pulled over or under coats (or our style: shoved-up, scrunched inside). Too, the cotton/bamboo is Oeko-Tek certified, and part of profits go to charities like Right to Play and Sick Kids.

Yep, well worth the $29. But if you’re still not convinced, these are the words of our family tester review:

“These mitts went over really well. They stay on Felix’s little arms and aren’t super-puffy, so each squeezed through his snowsuit wrists no problem. He’d usually be tottering around with his paws stuck in the coat. Poor guy.”

Jacquelyn Francis, mom of 20-month-old Felix

PS: Thanks to the lovely mummies behind Mimitens, we’d like to offer you the chance to win one of these: baby mitts, hat, scarf or mittens. To win, send an email to win@canadianfamily.ca with the subject line “Gimme Some Mittens!” and share your best tips for avoiding lost-mitten syndrome.

—Melissa, CF’s associate editor

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When Does The Bank Of Mom (And Dad) Close?

Courtesy of Quinn.Anya via Flickr

Courtesy of Quinn.Anya via Flickr

A recent posting on the Globe and Mail’s blog posed this: how long should parents of grown children provide their kids with financial support?

According to the article about 6/10 parents of grown children are giving their kids upwards $3,500 a year (we figure this doesn’t even include all of the free rent, utilities and groceries that many 20-somethings are currently riding on). The article even cited one family who continues to give money to their married children as what they call an early inheritance.

In a survey , they found that most baby boomer parents (who are not only carrying on the financial responsibility of taking care of their kids well past the age of majority, but are also feeling the burden of helping their aging parents) don’t expect their kids to be self-sufficient until the age of 25. My, how times have changed from 50 or even 20 years ago. But we have to wonder, is the maturing process slowing? And are we as parents to blame for our kids feeling too comfortable? If so, is this a bad thing?

So, when it comes down to giving your kids money do you have a cutoff age? Or does it depend on the parents financially stability? Or the child’s?

Also, take a look at these other family money solutions:

- Money lessons for mom
- Family finance quiz
- Teaching your kids about  money

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The Best Vitamin D Supplement for Babies

DdropsThere’s a lot of news recently suggesting a demand-based shortage of vitamin D and so forth. To me it sounds a bit like the big pharma version of new-release-video-game-console hype. But it did remind me of my first, okay, second, mummy regret. (First regret is still too raw, i.e. shameful, to add to my ongoing public confessions.)

For months following his birth, I gave my son a vitamin D drop daily, as recommended for all babies, particularly those breastfed.

Instead of researching to death the varieties available, as I’d do with any other product, I used the sample our pediatrician gave us, and bought it again. My babe sucked it back like candy, because, well, it is a chemical candy. It wasn’t until the six-month mark, when I was at in line at Shoppers, that I found out a more healthful version is available.

Another mom in line kindly told me that “a not-nasty” alternative is kept behind the counter. And it is so much better, and so much easier. D Drops contain pure vitamin D3 without any other chemicals or additives (such as artificial flavours and sweeteners, etc.). It’s also odourless, doesn’t require a dropper and your dumpling only needs the tiniest drop that fits on the tip of the top of a blueberry.

If you can’t find it locally, this great online pharmacy ships free across Canada.

PS: Do you think doctors should hand out large-size “samples” of baby products? Technically, it’s not an endorsement, but it seems implicitly so. Are sleepless new mums being preyed on? Is this akin to formula samples in the hospital?

And what vitamin do you give your baby? Thanks for sharing.

—Melissa, CF’s associate editor

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Holiday Gift Ideas for Teachers and Caregivers

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iStock Photo

It’s always hard to know what to get your child’s teacher for the holidays. Is this too expensive? Is that not enough? Here are some ideas from our readers on how to thank your child’s teachers and caregivers.

“We have been giving gifts from The Hospital for Sick Children’s gift shop website. You can purchase a gift for the teacher online and have it shipped to you. A portion of the proceeds go back to support the hospital. There is also a hospital wish list available—you can donate to a fund for equipment or toys in the teacher’s name.” - Jen Fedosoff, mom of Abby, 10, and Noah, 7, Etobicoke, Ont.

“Last year I gave my daughter’s teacher and the teacher’s assistant beautiful cotton and bamboo blankets. These women had shown such warmth to Charlotte during her first year of school, I wanted to give them something that would provide them some warmth too.” - Robin Stevenson, CF’s Senior Editor and mom of Charlotte, 5

“I organize a group gift. I collect $10 from each family and buy a gift certificate. The families are happy to only have to spend $10 per teacher since most of us have multiple teachers to buy for. And really, who wouldn’t want to receive a $200 gift certificate over 20 boxes of chocolates!” - Danielle Eveleigh, mom of Simon, 7, Andrew, 5, and Alex, 3, Toronto
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“Instead of a mug or candles, the best gift is homemade cookies along with the recipe. Also appreciated is a donation in-lieu to buy pencils for a classroom in Africa, for example.” - Marie-Josée Gaudreault, mom of Philip, 7, and Madeleine, 5, Toronto

For more Holiday giving etiquette, check out this article:

How (and Who) to Tip During the Holidays

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Give Back Even More

Food for Everyone- Photo by James Tse

Food for Everyone- Photo by James Tse

Our giving back week has come to an end, and hopefully it inspired you to help out any way you can. Remember, every little bit helps!

Still want more? Take a look at these articles for ways you and your children can make a difference.

•  Global Food Crisis Solution

•  Raising an Activist Child

•  What Moms Can do to Make a Difference

•  Give Your Child a Moral Compass

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How to Survive Parent-Teacher Interviews

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photo sxu.hu

It’s parent-teacher interview time again. When it comes to meeting your child’s teacher for the first time (and for only 15 minutes), most parents don’t know what to expect, what to ask and why. Armed with advice from top educators across Canada, here are tips for making the most of the parent-teacher interview:

• Most important tip of all: Read your child’s report card before you attend the interview and jot down any questions you have.

• Ask for clarification of the report card’s comments. Many are written in teacher-speak using qualifying terms like “some,” “frequently,” and “most of the time.” Ask what terms like “some difficulty” really mean.

• When you receive the report cards, there should be no real surprises about how your child is doing but if there are, there is a problem with communication from the teacher. If your child is not performing well in reading, math or anything else, it is a reasonable to assume that you should have known about it before the report card comes.

• You should leave the parent-teacher meeting knowing three strengths about your child and three areas of improvement (i.e. the need to move from 2-digit addition to 3-digit addition, be more focused in class, etc.).

• If your child is doing really well, have a conversation with the teacher about her learning skills. Ask how she’s doing with things like co-operation, conflict resolution and goal-setting.

• If your child is struggling, ask the teacher how you should go about helping him with his work at home. Devise a plan with the teacher to work on the problem and stay in communication.

• Many teachers communicate via email and a program called Teacher Web so you can have instant access to them. Though be advised that they are not obligated to communicate with you by email and you may need to send notes the old-fashioned way.

• Schools can provide translations to different languages. Do ask for one if you need one—how your child is doing in school is a very important conversation!

• Lastly, don’t be intimidated by this teacher meeting—this is the perfect opportunity to connect with the person who spends almost as much time with your child as you do.

Read about the fantastic teachers from this year’s Canadian Family Great Teacher Awards!

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