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Balancing your Career, Marriage and Kids

Show your kids how a great marriage works

July 24th, 2007

By Kat Hudson

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Sorry I’m late,” says Choclair as he breezes through the door of a downtown coffee shop. “But I’m a family man,” he adds, blaming a last-minute doctor’s appointment for his tardiness. Not exactly your standard tough-guy hip-hop artist.

The Toronto-based rapper, born Kareem Blake, admits that starting a family was the last thing on his mind when he began his career in the music business more than a decade ago. These days, though, with a hot single from his latest album, Flagship, hitting the charts, plus four Junos and several gold records in his trophy case, Choclair’s tackling an equally exciting career as a work-from-home dad, giving his daughters a taste of the biz.

His wife, Genelle Blake, initially stayed home with their daughters, Ke-Xin, 9, and Kaia, 3, but then she started missing the hustle and bustle of her career as a personal-banking rep.

“I liked my clients and what I did for a living, and I missed the feeling of providing. I felt like when I was at home, I was spending my days baby talking,” she says. “The happy balance for me is to work full-time during the week, then make the most of the weekends and the time I spend with my family.”

Choclair wasn’t surprised by her decision. “I never expected her to stay at home and be the traditional wife or fit into that role,” he says. “The bottom line is that she wanted to go back to work, so we made adjustments and made it happen.”

Adjustments that mean their girls sometimes hit daytime press junkets, radio interviews and television appearances with their dad (in Ke-Xin’s case, only after school and on holidays). Instead of hanging with a babysitter, these young ladies are regulars at MuchMusic tapings and boardroom meetings for Suave Dog, an independent recording label in which Choclair is a partner. Between play dates and loads of laundry, he also lets the girls sit in on recording sessions, at times to the frustration of producers.

“You hear their voices in the background of so many tracks,” he laughs. “The tech people were telling me to redo it, but I wanted to leave it. It’s just a little taste of real life!”

But Choclair’s business life can often take him far away from his home and family.

“If I’m performing somewhere out of town and I can get back home after the show, then I’ll fly back during the night so at least I can be there when the girls get up,” he says, embracing his role as an active parent, after having no relationship with his own father. In fact, with a disappointed shake of his head, he mentions missing three of Ke-Xin’s soccer games last season because of concerts. “I’ve experienced the father who misses out on his kids, and I never want to be that man.”

Genelle says she and Choclair take on day-to-day life as a team. “He’s great at doing his part. He takes care of the laundry and the dishes, unlike most husbands I know,” she says laughing. “We have a system: Whoever is home during the day does those chores. When I was home with our littlest one, I did them.”

With hopes to have more kids soon, this self-described “edgy Cosby family” is finding the balance between show business and the business of raising a family.

“I think being a stay-at-home parent is one of the best jobs, and one of the hardest,” says Genelle. “He does an exceptional job. He’s like Daddy Day Care. He sings for our kids, he dances, and I think that most people who know him as a rapper wouldn’t expect him to be such a great dad.”

Toronto-based writer ““ and hip-hop fan ““ Kat Hudson’s work has appeared in Canadian Family and Wish.

Balancing your Career, Marriage and Kids Photo by Andreas Trauttmansdorff
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